Hattie's Response

I wrote Hattie to let her know that I put up her interview on the site. She wrote me back:

Terrific! Thank you. Of course I self-promote. How else will anyone know that sex gets better with age? Or, at least, no worse! That's not a common belief, and I'm out to shatter the prevailing image that aging turns we older beauties (Cougars) into repulsive, undesirable old hags. My college lecture is specifically targeted to help young people get their sexuality to come (cum) alive..."Everything You Need to Know About Sex and Come Out On Top!" You were a bit derisive in your description of me, but that's understandable, as your take on older, sexually active women mirrors the way society treats/views us. That's about to change, and, at 73, I'm fortunate to be on the front lines of that battle. Enjoyed meeting you, and had fun viewing and sharing the video. Thank you again.

Ciao,
Hattie

I saw her email early in the morning and read my post again. Was I judging Hattie because she was a sexual woman in her 70's? I thought about it and then responded:

You're absolutely right that we all think it's okay for older men to sleep with younger women but the reverse always seems shocking. You're beautiful and funny and there's no reason it should be surprising. But, that's not what I was responding to. I think I was responding more to the way everything you or I said immediately became sexual and it felt attention seeking. But I was treating you like an equal - not a batty old lady. I'm always thrown when young girls do it, too. It bothers me because it's as if they think they have nothing else to impress men with so they go right to their "sexual" place. But, you wrote a good letter and if I gave anyone a bad impression, I'm sorry. And, if you'd like me to I'd be happy to post your letter up in the next post b/c I think you did a good job of explaining where you were coming from. I felt badly after reading it and although I was up late last night I quickly woke up to write you :). Thank you for explaining yourself and let me know if you want me to post your response so people can further see how intelligent you are and your raison d'etre.

And her reply to me:

What a caring reply. I appreciate that. YES, please publish it. Seth...as to where I'm cuming from (intended misspelling), I've been overly involved with sexuality for my entire life. (kinda like a guy!) As such, you can imagine how delightfully shocking it is for me to be as vibrantly sexual now, in my 70's, as I've ever been. One important note. I strongly believe that women who surgically alter themselves to look younger and/or to be appealing to men are making a dreadful mistake. It's authenticity, integrity, resplendent health and courage that make for great sex. As I say in my Hattietude -- "Face lifts are like potato chips...you can't have just one!"

Thank you again, and keep up the good work,
Hattie (my dad was a hatter!)

By the way, there are many, many young people who think and act like "traditional" old people...and I'm out to correct that with my college lecture, "Everything You Need to Know About Sex and Come Out On Top!)

Cheers, and keep it goin'